LiFE lessons
Some advice from an old failure:
1) Your attitude is going to be the biggest thing that determines the success of your life. You can be rich and still be a failure if your attitude is poor. You must work on your attitude every single day so that it is always positive. Having a good attitude is a “force multiplier” when it comes to living. It makes life much easier and more pleasant in the long run
2) Do everything you can when you are young and able. The word “failure” has no meaning when you are in your 20s. Start a business and fail (or succeed). Go to school and flunk out (or succeed). But do everything you can.
3) Be unfailingly patient and always kind to everyone. Kindness is not weakness and it doesn’t mean you can’t be firm or resolute. It just means you seek win-win, not win-lose or lose-win or lose-lose scenarios.
4) Learn to control your temper. “Men are like steel. When they lose their temper they lose their value.”
5) You are not owed anything, especially respect. You have to earn it. You earn it by saying what you’re going to do and doing what you said you would do. Under-promise and over-deliver.
6) Drink more water and less soda; stand up straight (practice it always!); look everyone in the eye when you talk to them (not stare, just look!); keep a smile on your face all the time, even when you are angry. Do these things and people will look to you as a leader.
7) Never lie; never exaggerate. Understate everything. People will believe you more when you do. “I never tell a lie, ever, because someday I might really need to lie and when I do I will want everyone to believe me.”
8) Be bold and take outrageous risks. The more you ask for, the more people will give you. This goes for jobs, salaries and love. In love remember that “No” only means “No” today, at this moment. People change with their moods and with circumstances. “No” today could mean “Yes” another time.
9) Self confidence wins hearts and the loyalty of men and it wins wars. Self confidence is nothing more than believing in yourself, even when you’re wrong, even when you make a mistake, even when no one else believes in you. Never, ever, for a second, lose confidence in yourself.
10) Be humble. You are no better than anyone else, not the homeless guy on the corner, not the mentally retarded man in a special needs class and not the janitor at work. Don’t brag. Don’t humble-brag. Let your works speak for you. At the same time remember that no one is better than you either, not the President of the Company, not some smart doctor, not that great looking person you wish you looked like. No one is better than you. You are better than no one.
11) Do not put yourself or anyone else on a pedestal. When they fall off, they will break and you will be disappointed. There is no “perfect” person out there for you to love. Everyone is damaged. There are no perfect people or situations. It is unfair to anyone else for you to believe they are “perfect” for you or the “One” because they cannot hold up the facade and you will resent them when you accept the truth and that is not their fault. It’s yours. Accept people as they are, not as how you wish they would be. There is no “One” person out there for you. There are countless.
12) Forget about rejection or embarrassment. Embarrassment lasts maybe five minutes. Do not ever fail to do something or talk to the pretty girl or say what you want because you might be embarrassed or rejected. You ARE going to be embarrassed and rejected, usually more often than not. Forget it and keep moving. Those things are elements of fear and fear is an illusion that keeps you from achieving your goals. “Keep your eye on the goal, not the goalie”.
13) It is always better to be a failure doing something you love than a success doing something you hate. If you chase money you will get it but money won’t make you happy - it will just make your misery more comfortable. Do the thing you love and you will never have to work a day in your life. Do not ever live your life for someone else, even your parents. You have this one and only life so make the most of it. If you don’t, the only one who loses is you. No one else really cares.
14) Always stand up for yourself and for the weak. That’s what being a “Man” means. Don’t tolerate ridicule or abuse of yourself or others. This is what “Honor” means and people will recognize it and rally around it. It makes you a leader. In the Army they call top leaders people who keep the “Mission first, soldiers always” as their priority.
15) Develop goals and then put time frames on them. Make them challenging goals. Break them into sub-goals and then get people to help you meet them. When you achieve them, make new goals. If you don’t know where you are going, any road will take you to oblivion. But if you do know where you are going the whole world will step aside to let you pass.
16) As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Never accept a ‘no’ from someone who doesn’t have the power to say ‘yes’”. There are going to be plenty of people who want to block your way for any or no reason. Even people who love you will try to hold you back sometimes so they aren’t lonely in their own misery. Don’t let them. Keep moving. Never mistake motion for action but sometimes motion is necessary just to build momentum.
17) Be smart. If you can’t be smart, be strong. If you can’t be strong, be fast. If you can’t be smart, strong or fast, then get used to receiving a sound beating.
18) Help others to achieve their goals. When you help others you help yourself. It also helps you build friendships and contacts and you never know when those things are going to come back to help you - and they will.
19) Travel. Travel. Travel. Don’t care how you do it but go somewhere, see something, do something, talk to people and you will enrich your life more than you can possibly imagine.
20) In every encounter, with a mate, with a boss, with a friend, strive to listen 80 percent of the time and talk 20 percent of the time. The more you talk the less people will listen. The more you listen the higher you will rise in the esteem of others. “Do you listen… or just wait to talk?” And when you do talk, be discreet. No one likes a gossip and remember - two people can keep a secret, if one of them is dead. Be careful with your words. While they are unsaid, you are their master. Once you say them, they are YOUR master.
21) Never. Stop. Learning. Get hobbies, take tours, read interesting things, go to seminars, stop watching television and playing video games. Having wide interests makes it possible for you to talk to anyone and making friends, finding lovers and developing contacts is what life is all about.
22) Remember that luck occurs when preparation and opportunity meet. If you want to be lucky then be prepared. Be “there”, not in front of the television; keep moving, keep striving. “Sweat more during peace; bleed less during war.” And if you get the opportunity to do something, then do it - you might never get the chance again. Find a way to say “Yes” to everything even when you mean no. Use the “ABC” method to argue with people - Affirm the goal of their argument; create a Bridge to your way of thinking; Convince them that there are other ways.
23) Don’t believe everything you believe. Conviction, no matter how fervently held, does not create truth. Keep an open mind. Consider that you MIGHT be wrong. Think of the opposite argument. If you are right, other arguments will fall apart, not just be discarded out of hand. If you are wrong, be strong enough to change your position. So few people are.
24) Take responsibility for your actions. When you are wrong, apologize. When you have hurt someone, apologize, acknowledge what you have done, work to make amends, and then strive to avoid that mistake in the future. Forget about self-recrimination after you truly apologize. Everyone screws up.
25) Never dwell on failures or mistakes of the past. Move beyond them. Forget the past. No one ever got successful in the past. Instead of ever saying “If only I had…” say, “Next time I will….” and that way you are training yourself to be successful.
26) Never give up. Persistence separates the men from the boys. When the going gets tough, the tough get going. “Tough times come and go. Tough people don’t.” Muhammed Ali once said about failure, “Getting thrown to the mat means nothing because sooner or later everyone gets thrown to the mat. To be a champion all you have to do is get back up and fight one more round. Just one more round.”
27) You are going to get hurt. It’s ok. Your feelings, no matter what they are, are always valid. You can never be judged for your feelings, no matter what they are, but you CAN and WILL be judged on your behavior. Act accordingly. “If there must be an absence of pain for joy to exist then the individual is doomed. We must find a way to experience joy despite our pain. Remember: everybody you meet is fighting a secret battle you don’t know anything about. Everybody hurts. Everybody. That is why it is so important to be kind to everyone you meet. The line between victory and defeat is razor thin. Sometimes we are standing right on that line and don’t even know it. A kind word or gesture could be the thing that pushes us over to victory while a mean word or spiteful gesture could be the thing that pushes us backwards into defeat. Be the Man who helps other achieve their personal victory and you will have a hand in achieving your own.”
28) Don’t waste your time comparing yourself to others. “Forget about trying to be better than the other guy. You only have to strive to be better than who you were yesterday.”
29) Forget about blame. The search for blame is always successful and accomplishes nothing. Focus on finding solutions, not blaming others - or yourself. Learn to forgive. It’s one of the best things you can do for yourself. Resentment and suppressed anger is just letting someone you can’t stand live rent-free in your head.
30) Remember that trust is earned, not granted. If you grant trust too early you will most likely be hurt. “Trust everyone - but always cut the cards.” Observe the behaviors of others. How they treat people, especially people who are below them socially or who can do nothing for them, is how they will treat you when they become comfortable. Be trustworthy yourself.
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(04-24-2018, 09:45 AM)ThennNow Wrote: Dài qué .. tóm tắc trong vòng 3 chử giùm ... Disappointed-face4 :face-with-tears-of-joy4:

Chao buoi sang :)

3 Chu do la :)