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(Quora) Let's say you have a child from a previous marriage. If your current spouse was constantly belittling, degrading, and disrespecting your child, what would you do?

Answered by Diva:

Well, I can tell you what my cousin did.

She had four children when she remarried, two boys and two girls. The girls were 14 and 8. The boys were 15 and 12.

One day she returned home from work to find the oldest daughter very upset. The other children seemed anxious and withdrawn. She wisely initiated a conversation with each one. Apparently her new husband had started saying things and doing things which bordered on verbal and emotional abuse.

She approached her husband about this and he did not deny his actions. In fact he said this was how he was and he saw no reason to change. In his own words there was a new sheriff in town and he was now the boss. My cousin said after hearing this she calmly informed him that she felt they had rushed into marriage without considering everything more carefully. She apologized to him and asked him to leave the home ( it was hers) immediately. She filed for divorce the next day. They had been married less than six months.

I remember being so proud of her. Gone was the shy, timid , meek person I had grown up with.

A similar situation occurred with the mother of two of my grandchildren.

Apparently, her new husband objected to the relationship she had with the children’s father(my oldest son). He also took issue with the children. She could handle his behavior regarding their father but when it started affecting the children ( 10 and 13) that could not be tolerated. She had always supported the children having a relationship with their father.

I am still close to her and her parents. We maintain a good relationship out of love and concern for the children. She ended the marriage.

I myself always said if something happened to my husband and I was left to raise my children alone, my first priority would be the welfare of my children. Disrespect and mistreatment of a child should never be tolerated. End of discussion. Let him go.